We’ve all experienced moments of meltdown and overwhelm. The question is, how do we navigate our way through these times? In today’s episode, Danielle and Ani share their roadmaps via stories and personal experiences that are certain to lift and help you through those difficult moments. As a bonus, be sure to keep an eye out for their special in-studio guest!
Point #1: What Can You Do Right Now?
- When you’re feeling a sense of overwhelm, sometimes it takes someone outside of yourself to help calm you down and to remind you to take a deep breath, take a step back, slow down, look at everything you have to do, and then ask yourself the question, “What is due FIRST? What’s most important?”
- Several years ag when Garrett & Danielle had moved to Arizona with their little family, Danielle found herself in a situation where paying bills was hit and miss. She asked herself the question, “What can I do RIGHT NOW?” She had no customers on the books, no clients, and was literally starting from scratch. “I did have a whole book of business back in Utah, so for a year, I flew to Utah once a month, worked three 12-hour days, and made as much in three days as I could in a month in Arizona.”
Ask Yourself: Taking a step back from your situation, what is one thing you can do right now to move you towards what is you are seeking and wanting?
Point #2: Dream a Little Dream
- Danielle is a visual person and, as such, will often dream when she’s feeling stressed out about something. She had a recurring dream where her family was on a ship in the pouring rain. She could see the light at the end of the tunnel and paddled vigorously to reach it, but every time she was nearly there, a massive wave of water pushed her back.
- After a year, Danielle finally got over the anxiety she was experiencing. She had stockpiled some cash, built momentum, and it was at that point Danielle lit a fire under Garrett when she told him how much she was making, which she had previously kept hidden from him. This was a turning point in their lives.
Ask Yourself: Do your dreams seem to reflect what is happening in your life?
Point #3: Momentum
- Danielle: When you think you’ve made it and you slow down to rest, you almost end up self-sabotaging. If you ever start having a lot of success and build momentum, do not self-sabotage! “Once you’ve hit a certain growth point, figure out where your next point is and create a plan to get to that new point.
- “If you don’t keep up with what you’ve done,” adds Ani, “you’re going to lose everything you have.”
Ask Yourself: What steps can you begin taking today to keep the momentum you’re currently experiencing?
Point #4: Someitmes, Youre Gonna Cry
- Ani recently took on a new project and for the first week and a half felt overwhelmed and was doubting her ability to pull it off. She told herself, “Ok, you have ONE MINUTE to cry!” That quickly evolved into working through the tears.
- An artist who was having a meltdown reached out to Ani recently for some help. Ani said to her, “Ok, set a timer. You have FIVE MINUTES to cry. However much you want to cry, do it in those five minutes and then fucking move on!”
Ask Yourself: When was a moment you pushed through something with tears running down your cheeks? What lesson did you learn about yourself?
Point #5: It’s All About the Reps
- Although Danielle has viewed herself as an introvert lacking the skills of a speaker and great communicator, she is very passionate and intuitive. She has always thought of herself as confident and one who is comfortable in her own skin, and so it bothered her that she wasn’t able to communicate or get on stage and speak, which is one of the things she always found attractive about her husband, Garrett.
- “One of my goals over the past ten years was to become a better educator, a better communicator, and a better speaker, so I continually forced myself to do things I was uncomfortable with.” Today, Danielle is doing podcasts, teaching & speaking in front of large audiences, and shares videos on many social media platforms. Her secret to becoming a new human being? “Putting in the reps of things I’m uncomfortable with.”
Ask Yourself: What growth have you experienced due to reps on your part?
Quote of the Week:
“Sometimes, you have to have those hard conversations, and those hard looks inside of your life, take a breath, and then ask yourself, “Where do I start TODAY?” Don’t wait until January; begin today moving toward your goals.”
—Danielle K White
“You have to see yourself as that person and ask, “Ok, if that’s what she looks like, and if that’s what she can accomplish, what do I have to do to become her? What do I have to do to be the person who has accomplished these things?”