*EPISODE REPEAT FROM OCTOBER 2018* On the heels of a fabulous weekend getaway to New York City, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about the importance of taking time away from their children and their day-to-day responsibilities, and reconnecting with each other as a couple on a deeper level.
Every week inside the Date Your Wife Podcast, married couple Danielle K. White and Garrett J. White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding Sex, Money, Parenting & Communication.
Point #1: Weekend Getaways
- At least four times a year, Garrett and Danielle take long weekend trips to reset their relationship.
- Before Garrett began committing to these getaways, he was unable to see the ROI in them. For ten years, he had a difficult time reconciling spending money on any type of vacation.
Ask Yourself: When was the last time you and your spouse went on a weekend getaway?
Point #2: Refresh & Unplug
- In the Strategic Coach program, Dan Sullivan created the Entrepreneur Time System. Inside of that, you have Focus Days, Buffer Days, and Free Days.
- When you go on weekend getaways, there are a couple of things that have to happen: 1- you must be able to refresh, and 2- you must be able to unplug.
Ask Yourself: What do you and your spouse do in order to come away refreshed from these getaways?
Point #3: Can’t vs Can
- You’ll always find something that can get in the way of taking time away from the kids in order to be with each other: you don’t have time, the conditions aren’t right, it’s either all or nothing.
- A lot of times, we focus on what we can’t do instead of what we can do. If your marriage is in a rough place, it’s even easier to justify why you can’t do something.
Ask Yourself: What excuses can you clear away in order to make room for weekend vacations with your spouse?
Point #4: Sexual Distance
- When Danielle feels like they’re in a weird place, she thinks back to the time when they were dating. “What were the behaviors I was doing that I don’t do anymore?”
- Garrett: If you have some distance sexually, it’s very easy to get stuck in a routine where you start going through these phases: anticipation, desperation, fuck you, and apathy.
Ask Yourself: What are some things you did when you were dating that you’re no longer doing?
Point #5: Primal Connection
- If you don’t get space away from your current environment, you can’t return to the primal nature that actually connected you in the beginning.
- If you’re not connecting regularly, you end up inside of a stale relationship where you’re simply partners in the game, sans the lust and the primal connection.
Ask Yourself: What are you doing to retain and ignite the primal connection you felt when you first met and dated your spouse?
Take a walk down memory lane and reminisce about the things you loved doing together when you first met and while you were dating.
Date Night Topic:
Get your calendars out and plan your weekend getaways for the next 12 months.
Quote of the Week:
“I’m constantly creating opportunities inside of our relationship to have space away with Danielle.”
-Garrett J. White
“Let’s hit the reset button before it gets too far into the ‘fuck you’ mode.”
-Danielle K. White