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Happy Mother’s Day to all of you beautiful mothers!
I’m currently expecting my third child and approaching my third trimester. I don’t love being pregnant, however, the idea of creating a human being is pretty incredible.
I remember my mom telling me, “once a mother, always a mother.”
This is so true. For mothers, there is not an hour that goes by that you don’t think about your children regardless of what age they are.
I read a quote that said “you think once for yourself, and once for your children.” This couldn’t be more true.
It’s funny being pregnant there’s a real life thing called “pregnancy brain.”
You may not understand this if you don’t have children, but it’s more like a mommy brain. Once you have children it’s no longer just thinking for yourself, but constantly for your children, and even as they get older you still worry.
I’m 36 years old and I’m pretty sure my mom still worries about me.
Children give more purpose to life. I know I wouldn’t be the same person I am today without kids. I got married young at 20 years of age and had my first baby at 24. I think I was still kind of a baby myself, but it forced me to figure out life a little bit quicker.
This new baby was planned despite the eight-year gap from my youngest daughter, and no it wasn’t like we had been trying for a long time – I just didn’t feel ready before.
But to be honest, I don’t know if you’re ever ready to have children. You just kind of figure it out along the way.
If I were to give any new mothers advice, it would be soaking in all the time you can when your children are young. I’ve always worked but I’ve always been able to create that work-mother balance.
To be honest, when people ask me what I wanted to be when I grow up, I said a mother.
That’s why I find it interesting that I have a business that has become as successful as it has.
Because my first priority was always being a mom. But I also realized that I love my career, and am thinking in many ways it makes me a better mom.
Balance your time and let go of the mommy guilt.
It’s funny, a couple of years back I had my children in daycare after school 2-3 times per week.
I always felt so bad about this whole daycare thing, and I remember one day I went to go pick up my daughter and she said, “mom I don’t want to go home yet, can you go run some errands and come back and get me later?”.
Oh wait, you don’t want to spend every waking moment with mom and you’d rather play with your friends? That’s weird…She was four at the time!
I try to set an example for my kids because I feel like my two girls are walking images of myself.
Anytime they get an attitude or say something they shouldn’t I look in the morrior and think, oh crap I’m pretty sure they learned that for me.
One more quick story I’ll share with you.
I was at my salon and my babysitter canceled, so I brought my oldest daughter to work and I was filming a Marketing video.
One of the things for me in doing hair was that hair extension is an amazing tool to create more income behind the chair and gave me the ability to create more balance, which ultimately gives me more time with my kids and family.
I built my whole business off of this message.
As I was sharing my story on Camera, my daughter watched in the background and I began to get a little bit emotional and started to cry about my journey as a working mother.
When the filming was over, my oldest daughter looked at me and said, “Mommy, I love you.”
Here I was feeling bad that I had to take her into work with me only to realize she got to see me in a different environment, and the passion that I carry for my career and being a mother.
I felt like this is one of those moments that she would remember as an adult – no matter what she chose to pursue in her life.
I remember growing up that my mother also worked, and I believe this created a huge impact on how I operate as well.
I’m grateful for my mother and know that she was an amazing example to me.
As my third child approaches, I can’t help but feel nervous and excited!
Baby Isla is due late July and I’m excited for the next chapter of our lives!!
Hope everyone has an amazing Mother’s Day!