Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about momentum in this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. It has taken many years for the White’s to get to a place where they are experiencing momentum in all areas of their life and share with their listening audience through stories and experiences what has brought them to the place where, only a few short years ago, they wondered if they would even make it.
Every week inside the Date Your Wife Podcast, married couple Danielle K. White and Garrett J. White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding Sex, Money, Parenting & Communication.
Point #1: Tipping Point
- Danielle feels like her business has hit a tipping point, leading her to the conclusion that it’s the small things in life that push people forward.
- She questions why so many people are not consistent with those small things that create momentum, knowing they would ultimately lead them to the outcomes they desire.
Ask Yourself: Where in your world have you experienced the momentum of the tipping point?
Point #2: Marriage Is a Lifestyle
- Anything great takes a fucking long time to build. When people see the White’s and their success, they begin wanting that in their marriage and become frustrated when it doesn’t happen on their timetable.
- Garrett: The number of years that you were a dumb-ass and caused a lack of momentum or momentum in the wrong or weak direction, is not going to be turned around in two days. The fundamental disciplined habits must be changed and maintained over time.
Ask Yourself: How can you demonstrate more patience in your marriage?
Point #3: Merry-Go-Round
- Marriage is like a Merry-Go-Round: It takes great effort to get it moving at first as you grab on with both hands and push hard. Pretty soon you can give it a little push and it keeps going because momentum has kicked in.
- Inside of marriage, many people kill the momentum by quitting before they hit the tipping point. Others experience momentum but take their eyes off the prize, losing the edge and the momentum they have gained.
Ask Yourself: Where is your relationship within this conversation of the Merry-Go-Round?
Point #4: Gaining Momentum
- The fastest way to gain momentum is to start going on dates every single week. Start taking your wife on Date Nights and each day send her notes of love, honor, and appreciation. She’s got to know that these are not going to stop.
- Momentum is built inside of your marriage and business when you build up momentum inside of yourself. Garrett and Danielle are at a point where, when they collide, there is so much momentum, certainty, and power within each of them that neither one of them can stop the other.
Ask Yourself: What can you do to start gaining or increasing momentum in your relationship?
Point #5: Character and Contrast
- During sticky phases, you’re doing the work yet are becoming more bitter and angry towards one another. These are the times you must shift your energy. Once you have that momentum, do the little things to maintain that momentum.
- Garrett loves the different characters and looks of Danielle from her formal look in Louis Vuitton’s to her ponytail and Lulu pants. Danielle loves Garrett in a suit but finds him especially sexy when he wears a t-shirt and jeans.
Ask Yourself: What are the different looks of your partner that take your breath away?
Have a conversation about the Flywheel Effect.
Date Night Topic:
What are some things you can do for each other to gain or maintain momentum within your relationship?
Quote of the Week:
“Business and marriage fall apart for the same reason: people let go of momentum OR they don’t have the courage to keep pushing to even get to the point where momentum can begin.”
-Garrett J. White
“Sometimes we want to look at our business and marriage separately, but taking some of those business tactics and applying them to marriage isn’t that far off.”
-Danielle K. White